Weddings are every couple’s special day — and no one should EVER ruin it.
The couple just perfected everything in their wedding plan — and then their big day arrives. Sure, some things may go out of hand, a little tweaks here and there, the couple making simple mistakes — but these should never come from you (as their guest).
Amber Harrison, style and etiquette expert for Wedding Paper Divas told The Knot about proper wedding etiquette and wedding planner Amy Shey Jacobs of New York City-based company Chandelier Events shared to the Insider the wedding faux pas that should be avoided.
We’ve compiled all these in a list of wedding etiquette you might want to take a look at first before attending a wedding. Sometimes, there are things you thought were okay, but were actually not.
1. Forgetting to RSVP.
RSVP in wedding invitations are there for a reason. The final head count will help determine the important details of the wedding — from the catering to the favours. So, as a courtesy, reply to the RSVP as soon as possible.
“If you RSVP after the deadline, seating charts and catering may have already been arranged, causing stress and frustration for the couple and their vendors,” Harrison says. “A good rule of thumb is to return the RSVP card immediately or, if there’s no specified deadline, within at least four weeks of receiving it.”
2. Wearing white.
Don’t outshine the bride by wearing white or any hue similar to white such as cream or beige. It’s her day and she should be the star.
3. Throwing trash anywhere.
Throwing trash anywhere is a sign of disrespect. Period.
4. Insulting the food or complaining about it.
If you find that some of the food in the menu lack flavour, or you were allergic to, do not loudly complain about it and never insult the food. Be discreet in saying you’re allergic to the food being served.
5. Wearing something too casual.
Wedding is a formal occasion. So hold off your dazzling mini skirts for a day, and wear something appropriate.
6. Bringing a date the couple won’t like.
When you’re allowed to bring a date, make sure he/she is someone the couple or other important wedding guests likes.
“[Don’t] bring a guest who might make the couple, or other important wedding guests, uncomfortable,” Harrison says. “Do your part to avoid any awkward social situations that might upstage their day.”