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I'm really attracted to islander looking guys, Samoan, Hawaiian, Maori, etc

 Oh dear
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 why?
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 Me too!
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 I dunno, just find them really sexy. Maybe it's the tribal aspect? Not sure, but watching the Hakka is pretty damn hot, even though I know it's not supposed to be!
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 (I wrote me too) for me it's because they're seen as so strong and powerful. And then every Maori, Samoan, Islander dad I've seen have been great with their kids. Like, amazingly patient and happy. But, of course this is a generalisation.
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 Once was warriors though
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 Every maori man I have known closely are either openly aggressive or way too nice...on the surface they are nice but turns out they were very passive aggressive.
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 Lol once were warriors isn't typical. Just the same as crocodile dundee isn't typical for Australians.

You've met some shitty people then.

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 I'm sure it's not the norm but definitely a stereotype, but I lived in an area with a high Maori population, lots of domestics and alcohol abuse. Really aggressive!
Maori friends always ended up fighting at social gatherings.

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 ^what racist assumptions.
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 Not racist assumptions at all if you know this culture or have been part of it. They are exactly that
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 And if I said Africans are machete wielding savages- Oh God the outcry of racism. But racism towards Australians and kiwis is so widely accepted. Total rubbish.
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My secret is I hate running around after everyone. Driving kids to school, uni, sport, work, train stations, friends houses. Driving mum to doc appointments, and other places coz she can’t drive. My husband has a job with lots of perks like dinners and events so everything is always left up to me. I want a job but I can’t find one that fits in with everyone else’s commitments. Everyone thinks I’m such a great mum for doing all I do, but I fu****g hate it.

 My secret is, I deliberately got a job with hours that mean I can't be mums taxi anymore. My kids now know how to use public transport.
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 Welcome to motherhood
Your mum might be eligible for Red Cross to drive her for small fee

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 Selfish cow ^^
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 Does anyone like running around after people and driving them everywhere? Fair vent
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 Gee some of you people are awful. I had the perfect job working 9-3 Monday to Friday but six months ago the company I worked for shut down and I havnt been able to find a job yet. Everyone thinks it great having me home so I can run around after them all but I can’t wait to get back to work. Unfortunately public transport is totally shit in my area. Also my younger kids are too young to catch busses and trains on their own. Thanks to the responder for the tip about Red Cross. I’ll look into that thanks.
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 ^Don't worry mate. For a community of mums they sure know how to tear the rest of us down. It must be great being as perfect as them.
You don't need to justify anything to them. At least you have a life, you don't just sit here judging these nasty people the way they do us.

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I think about sex a lot. Way more than is normal I think. Just, all the time. Rarely with my husband. I'd never stray from our marriage bed. But I can imagine what I'd be doing if I was single and the other people consented.

Stole money from my dementia nana

  Is that why you went to jail troll?
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 What an awful thing to do. Karma will sort you out
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 It's awful, but financial abuse in the elderly by family members is unfortunately quite common.
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Had an affair with my parole officer

 Classy.
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 Was it good?
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 Lol Romeo.
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My secret is everyone thinks (my husband included) that we have my budget manage our money. My husband is terrible with money, and we couldn't make ends meet financially, even though we earned enough, he just spent everything. My husband wanted to use my budget but it was crazy expensive, but as his friends had just bought a house after using them and husband wanted to do the same.
So I set up a budget, went over it with my husband and said this is what has been set up for us. Now when he wants money I say oh I have to call and ask, and he usually just forgets about it. So now I want to tell him, but it will be the end of eating, having a roof over our heads and bills paid.

 No need to tell him, you've just outsourced the management of My Budget (to yourself, saving fees). You're handling it fine, bills are paid & there's food on the table. Go You!!!
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Had an affair with my sons friend
My son is 21 and his friend is 23

I have quite a few secrets I’ve had since 4, if I told no one would believe it so I’m also taking them to my grave. I’ve never told a soul not even my husband of 15 years, if people knew the things I’ve done it would ruin every relationship I have and people would see me differently so I’ve never told anyone.

 Since 4? You poor thing, I hope no one stole your childhood from you.
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 You cant be blamed for anything you did at 4. The adults around you at the time are to blame.
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 I’m not sure about that, I was physically hurt a lot as a child in fact my earliest memories are very fearful. I grew up torturing animals but felt nothing whilst I did it. My mum was very concerned about it and I’d hear the adults sometimes mention it but I didn’t know at the time what they meant. My mum said I completely lacked empathy. Looking back now as an adult I can’t believe some of the horrific things I did. I feel so bad now, funny thing is it’s only recently started coming back in my memories, I had blanked it out for so many years I’d almost forgotten, a part of me doesn’t want to remember any of it but when I’m alone for long periods it always creeps back in my mind and I hate it as I’m not that person anymore.
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Debt I’ve let my whole family and the government down I’m too gutless to end my life because I don’t want to go to hell but the truth is what god will forgive me for the terrible things I have brought apond my family

 Sorry that was too deep I guess for most
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 Don’t be too hard on yourself. Ask yourself will this matter in 5-10 years time
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 How do you get into so much debt? Can you speak to a broker and come to a plan? All the best.
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 Already seen ths response a few posts back
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 ^now the post is under this one 😂
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 DOnt worry about letting the Government down! F**k them, they have let us all down.
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Yes & sorry not telling you

 Thieve
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