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I think it's a lovely idea, assuming contacting them won't put you at risk. Just sent a text asking if they would like to catch up. Keep it simple, you can talk about the situation in person if you need to, but for the initial contact just a simple hi how are you, do you want to catch up is ok.
This is a great idea and its lovely you want to try to reconnect, just remember that they are adults who are responsible for their own relationship with their grandkids. You can definitely initiate the first contact but please don't spend too much of your time and energy for people who have not put any effort into your kids for 3 years.
Then again they could be complete idiots or nasty people I don’t know; I’m just saying maybe they have a side of the story so don’t completely give up before giving them a go :)
Send a text message from the kids: Hi nanna, granny, grandma. I know it’s been a long time but since Christmas is coming up mum thought it would be a good idea if we can catch up and spend some time together. Let mummy know when you’re available and we can organise a time and day. Look forward to seeing you
Lots of love: (insert kids names)
Just giving an update.
Ex MIL invited us to a family catch up before I got a chance to send her a message. She must have been wanting to open that gate too.
Thank you all for your help.
Thank you for all the helpful replies.
I will try a simple message along the lines of “hi, Christmas is around the corner and I was wondering if you would like to see the kids.”
Should I expand on that and appoligise for not contacting sooner?
Just keep it short and simple and say it’s been a while, but would you like to get together so they can see the kids? Do what makes you comfortable. Your place or theirs, neutral ground , whatever you feel is right. Goodluck op!!